Through the years I have heard so many spiritual “isms”. One of those that always baffled me was this one:
“When I step into a new way of being – a transformational moment – then all of my darkness comes up in order to be cleared.”
It baffled me because I couldn’t for the life of me figure out how it would be cleared!
Magically?
Over time?
By chanting the name of my guru over and over?
Nope. Apparently not. Not if my life was anything to judge by! “Things” “came up” and I just suffered my way through it, wondering why I felt myself to be the only person on the planet who didn’t know what I was supposed to be doing – or not doing – to “clear” those things or to allow them to pass through!
Oh, it’s not that I didn’t get lots of advice: Pray, Meditate, Chant, Call out to God, Surrender (that’s another good one to talk about in a blog post!)…. But I never found that any of those things did a bit of good at helping or healing or clearing me of these things that were “up”!
It was maddening.
Then I came to the path of New Thought, and suddenly there were principles and tools to work with – actual useful methods and ways of thinking that allowed me to understand what the deal was and how to work with it. The one principle that must be returned to is – God in us, as us, is us. We are so much a part of God that praying to God becomes a vastly different process than it used to be when I thought God was somewhere far, far away, or someone far, far from being an intimate part of me! The one tool that I am currently using to great effect in remembering the nearness of spirit is “affirmative prayer”.
While it takes an effort that is comprised of focusing and refocusing as many times as it takes, the principle is this: When I actually feel and know some aspect of my Godness, if you will – whether that is my wealth, or my health, or my compassion, or my wisdom…right? – even if I only know and feel it for a few seconds (!), then the opposite will arise. Okay, so far so good. But how to clear it? By going back and back to the opposite spiritual quality by using the tool that I find powerful: affirmative prayer!
So, if I claim my wealth, and poverty slaps me in the face, I have to go back to affirming my wealth – but not just saying over and over, “I’m rich, I’m rich, I’m rich” and hoping the words alone will swamp my bank account with millions. No. Instead, there has to be an internal and experiential understanding – which thank God I’ve been introduced to and I’ve claimed and continue to claim – that because God is everything, that means that I’m part of that everything. That because all of God’s qualities cannot be separate from God Itself, all of God’s qualities are in everything – and that includes me! So they must be accessible to me!
So, now when I pray, I am affirming the God qualities until I feel them to be the Truth in this moment itself, and I watch my life change. (And if I’m just completely unprepared to claim God’s qualities in me, I get someone else to pray with me – to affirm that which I can’t do in the moment!)
Please let me tell you that I am not talking about affirmations. Affirmations are misunderstood greatly, I feel, and in the past were my greatest thing to dislike, until I learned how to work with them. If they already work for you, I would hazard a guess that you are keying into some kind of pulsating reality around the affirmations you are using, which was not something that used to be a part of my affirmation experience, and so I never saw results. Understandably, they frustrated me.
In any case, what works for me right now is something called “affirmative prayer”, and it comes from the New Thought arena (Centers for Spiritual Living are all around the country, and they are the New Thought “churches”), and affirmative prayer goes like this, in 5 distinct steps:
(1) Know and state that God Is. That whatever quality I am needing in my life, that is a quality of God. So, for example, if I’m poor, I know and state the ever-existence of God’s infinite supply. I affirm and know it definitively, because I know that God is everywhere.
(2) Know that I am one with that quality because I am one with God!
(3) Realize (or “make real”) the quality in my life, using statements like: “I know that I am showered by God’s infinite supply. I know that as a part of God, as God’s beloved child, I can have no need that is not supplied.” And just so you know, be prepared to hear parts of your mind argue. That’s okay! In fact, you can fold that into your praying! If my mind says, “But, hey, I’ve been broke a long time! What the hell are you talking about???” then my next sentence in this part would be, “The past is over and I know something now, which is that God is my supply, and no external situation has more power than my recognizing of the power of the Truth of God’s qualities in me.”
(4) Gratitude – What a relief to be able to claim, in this moment itself, all of my goodness! All you have to say is “thank you”. It is said by many, and I have had the experience, that when we really feel our hearts open, gratitude is natural, and then the words of gratitude and appreciation flow. In the meantime, “thank you” works! 🙂
(5) Let it go. You have stated the truth, and it is the Truth of Now – not the truth of what-will-be. It seems like what-will-be to us because we live in linear time, but in God time it is done, and it is done now! So you say that you let it go, you let it be, because all that you have said is so. “And so it is. Amen.” That is the traditional finishing phrase in New Thought.
So…that’s my best remedy for all that “comes up”, all the darkness that I have so many years of clinging to. I have to keep recognizing that “stuff coming up” is just another chance to recognize what is the lightest, best, most powerful aspect of my best self!
And nothing can stand against that. If in the midst of knowing what uncomfortable things I am feeling and thinking I can also claim the light, guess which one wins? You got it. The light. Nothing can stand against that.
Nothing.
With principles, I can watch things “come up” and know what ground I’m standing on – claiming my oneness with God – and help myself, with greater compassion, by staying there amidst the grit and grime of my experience, and watching that change of consciousness do the heavy lifting.
It’s not easy, namby-pamby work, but it beats the heck out of doing it – or thinking I’m doing it, and failing at it – all by myself, without that consciousness. And I no longer have to wonder what magical or unknown thing will make that “stuff” that is “up”, go away.
My focus will. The light of my own true identity will. This is what Rev. Beckwith calls “taking dominion” over our thoughts. Yahooooo!
So, knowing more about what to do when “stuff” “comes up”…priceless! 🙂
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For more information about Centers for Spiritual Living and the New Thought movement, or about this kind of “affirmative prayer”, check out Rev. Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith’s Agape Church in Los Angeles, CA, and any Center for Spiritual Living across the country.